"The organic division of sex... There are conflicts to be sure. Male and female lead deifferent lives with different aims. Wilson (1975) describes sex (incorrectly) as a shearing force to be overcome in social evolution. Human bonds, he suggests, are formed between individuals, in spite of sex and not because of it. Wilson finbs that courtship mixes aggression and attraction and that intercourse overcomes antagonism at considerable expense of resources."

Male & Female in Social Life
By Lloyd E. Sandelands
Published by Transaction Publishers, 2001
ISBN 0765808773, 9780765808776
220 pages

Note from Reclaiming Manhood Site: This corroborates many of the things we have been saying. This perfectly explains the mammalian male sexual behaviour, where females and males shun each other unless and until they're in heat. Even then, you can see female running away from a sexually charged male, and male has to use aggression to mate with her. It is also common to see females in heat circling a disinterested male not in heat. Masculinity and feminiity are mutually exclusive and it is only under sexual heat that this 'repulsion' is temporarily attained, usually as soon as sex is over... but often even before the sex process is over. 

"But... According to Freud, all social attraction -- all that can be subsumed under the heading of love -- is born of the complementarities of sex. "

Note from Reclaiming Manhood Site: Freud, whose beliefs were influenced by almost two thousand years of Christian influence, is the one primarily responsible for the mess that science is in regarding human, but especially male gender and sexuality.

The NewYork Times Book Review of Guyland by Michael Kimmel

Guyland is based on more than 400 interviews over a four-year span with young men, ages 16–26. Kimmel’s study shows that the guys who live in “Guyland” are mostly white, middle-class, totally confused and cannot commit to their relationships, work or lives. Although they seem baffled by the riddles of manhood and responsibility, they submit to the “Guy Code,” where locker-room behaviors, sexual conquests, bullying, violence and assuming a cocky jock pose can rule over the sacrifice and conformity of marriage and family. Obsessed with never wanting to grow up, this demographic, which is 22 million strong, craves video games, sports and depersonalized sexual relationships.

Quote from an advertisement from San Diego

Rave: Straight man searching for straight men

Date: 2005-02-05, 12:41PM PST

Straight man sees another straight man for completely straight male-on-male sex. 

I'm as straight as they come. I lettered in track and basketball in college. I'm the father of two teenage boys, and the husband of an extremely attractive attorney. I attend church on Sundays, play poker at least once a month with my old navy buddies, and own a golf membership. I'm the poster child for straight men. 

But sometimes, I want something a little different. 

I want to meet another man who is as straight as I am -- that is, who is entirely, completely, unmistakably straight, a man who is appalled by the very thought of homoeroticism. And I want him to fuck the shit out of me. Because, really, there's nothing more masculine than taking it up the bunghole from a hung, masculine, STRAIGHT man. 

I want him to pound me until I bleed. I want him to force his thick, throbbing cock down my throat. I want him to slap me around, to degrade me, to shoot his hot wad onto my face. His hot STRAIGHT wad, that is -- I don't want any lameass queer man-gravy to come anywhere near me; the very notion turns my stomach. But I NEED to experience that hot, virile, and thoroughly hetero sensation of his spooge running down my chin. 

Oh, I've seen some of the pathetic straight-man-seeks-straight-man-for-blowjob ads here in CL. It is pretty obvious what is happening in those ads -- you queer knob-jockeys don't have the 'nads to admit to your gay leanings. I'm OK with that, really -- to each his own. More power to you. But I really think you would be a lot happier if you would just admit that you are queer, and get on with life. 

But I'm not that way at all. I'm no queer. I'm just a normal, straight, chick-loving guy who likes to whitewash another guy's back 40 now and again. There is nothing inherently gay about two men spending an afternoon brownhatting, before going home to their wives. Sure, yes, I love playing the skinflute. Yes, I enjoy the feeling of a thick love muscle pounding into my chocolate cha-cha, now and again. But I like it in a manly, straight way, unlike you closeted, goober-smooching bungie boys. 

Any takers? NO QUEERS. 

...

"The observation that men want, and perhaps even need, private space is not new or startling."

JAMES TWITCHELL, AUTHOR OF WHERE MEN HIDE

The End of Gay: And the Death of Heterosexuality

by Bert Archer

About this title: Gay is a phase - but not in the sense that your parents might have thought. Gay is part of a cultural, social and political movement. When Gay is no more, that will mark the beginning of the end of heterosexuality too. Internationally acclaimed writer Bert Archer offers us a world where sexual identity no longer defines us. Examining a wealth of cultural, social and political history, as well as his own sexual past and present, Archer shows us where sexual identity is heading - all lables are back in the closet. Welcome to a new world without gender stereotypes.

Hating themselves -- the bane of being straight

Note from Reclaiming Natural Manhood site: Read the following quote after ignoring the words 'homosexuals', 'homophobes', 'gays', etc (the words have been emboldened to warn readers). We strongly condemn the use of the above words to denote the sexuality of masculine gendered males. The following has been written by a poor, brainwashed Westerner, who can't think about sexuality without using these ill-based concepts. Otherwise, what she's saying makes perfect sense:

I love to note that some of the worst homophobes (sic) you can find turn out to be closet homosexuals (sic). Their zeal in crucifying gays (sic) is fueled by their desire to purge the "abomination" within themselves. They are so busy trying to suppress every gay (sic) thought in their craniums that the subject never gets off the back-burner.

-- By Soya Ryu

(taken from: Asexual Rants on the Woes of Heterosexuality)

"The people in their overwhelming majority are so feminine by nature and attitude that sober reasoning determines their thoughts and actions far less than emotion and feeling."

Adolf Hitler, Mein Kampf, vol. 1, ch. 6: 'War Propaganda.'

Note from Reclaiming Natural Manhood: This inclusion of Adolf Hitler's quote on this page is no vindication of the evil that he was... but it is to show how interesting it is that he considered emotions and feelings to be masculine, while reasoning and logical thinking to be feminine... quite unlike what the West today preaches. Was it the common view in those times?

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Straight men don't get erections easily with women

Here's a reply that an experienced woman gives to a young woman facing problem with a boyfriend who can't get erections:

lady W

"If the problem really bothers you that much tell him that you think he should go see a doctor, yeah lads that are young do have problems with getting erect but you have been with him long enough to concur the natural problems if there was any i mean. it may be just a psycological issue"

Straight men don't get erections easily with women, but they do with men:

An attractive woman's experience of giving massages to straight men:

Getting an erection during massage is not normal (as in it doesn’t happen every time) but it does happen. I have given massage for 20 years full time (probably around 20,000 massages) and I have only had one male get a full on erection. I know there are probably more who have had feeling stimulated or had the massage feel sensual.

Julie Onofrio, LMP

A man's experience of giving massages to straight men:

I have had heterosexually identified men become aroused during a session. I have even had heterosexually identified men become aroused during CranioSacral Therapy Sessions which are performed fully clothed. As the body relaxes deeper into parasympathetic, the odds of arousal increase. While working on the sacral, lumbar, and pelvic areas of the craniosacral system, I am working specifically in the area of the lumbar sacral plexuses talked about above. I have also spoken with other male massage therapists from around the country who have had heterosexual men become aroused during a session.

Cranio Brian

categorization of sexual orientation is not objective or universal; these categories have political implications (Muehlenhard 2000).

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The biologist Anne Fausto-Sterling examined the social nature of biological knowledge about human sexuality. She contends that the act of labeling a person a man or a woman or heterosexual/homosexual is a social decision. Fausto-Sterling acknowledges the importance of scientific knowledge, but considers our beliefs about gender to be the foundation that defines sex and sexual behavior, even affecting the kinds of knowledge scientists produce about sex (Fausto-Sterling 2000).

Synopsis of the book: Sex and the Gender Revolution: Heterosexuality and the Third Gender in Enlightenment London

A revolution in gender relations ocurred in London around 1700 that resulted in a sexual system that endured in many aspects until the sexual revolution of the 1960s. There emerged three genders: men, women and a third gender of adult effeminate sodomites, or homosexuals. This text reconstructs the worlds of 18th-century prostitution, illegitimacy, sexual violence and adultery. In those worlds the majority of men became heterosexuals by avoiding sodomy and sodomite behaviour. Women generally experienced the new male heterosexuality as its victims, but - as prostitutes, seduced servants, remarrying widows and adulterous wives - also pursued passion. The text explores the sexual underworld of extramarital behaviour as central not only to the sexual lives of men and women, but to the very existence of marriage, the family, domesticity and romantic love. London emerges as not only a geographical site but as an actor in its own right, mapping out domains where patriarchy, heterosexuality, domesticity and female resistance take vivid form in our imaginations and senses.

(Synopsis of the book: Sex and the Gender Revolution: Heterosexuality and the Third Gender in Enlightenment London v. 1 (Ch Series on Sexuality, History & Society) by Randolf Trumbach, by Chicago University Press)

"At what point do you say we cannot tolerate this anymore?"

Lee Hamilton, co-chair, 9/11 commission