The NewYork Times Book Review of Guyland by Michael Kimmel
Guyland is based on more than 400 interviews over a four-year span with young men, ages 16–26. Kimmel’s study shows that the guys who live in “Guyland” are mostly white, middle-class, totally confused and cannot commit to their relationships, work or lives. Although they seem baffled by the riddles of manhood and responsibility, they submit to the “Guy Code,” where locker-room behaviors, sexual conquests, bullying, violence and assuming a cocky jock pose can rule over the sacrifice and conformity of marriage and family. Obsessed with never wanting to grow up, this demographic, which is 22 million strong, craves video games, sports and depersonalized sexual relationships.
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While the book is very commendable for presenting the truth about men, it is also important to acknowledge that men run away from committment, relationships with women and marriage for one and only one reasons --- because they are unnatural for mammalian males. Because, it is against their natural instincts... because men are made for men's spaces not for heterosexual spaces -- even if its marriage. You can bind them in marriage in traditional societies with force. But in Western societies while there is force to be heterosexual, there is no force to get married.
So, men don't get married or have relationships... they just have sex with women to prove their manhood.
The more feminine ones prefer to have relationships with women.
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