"The organic division of sex... There are conflicts to be sure. Male and female lead deifferent lives with different aims. Wilson (1975) describes sex (incorrectly) as a shearing force to be overcome in social evolution. Human bonds, he suggests, are formed between individuals, in spite of sex and not because of it. Wilson finbs that courtship mixes aggression and attraction and that intercourse overcomes antagonism at considerable expense of resources."

Male & Female in Social Life
By Lloyd E. Sandelands
Published by Transaction Publishers, 2001
ISBN 0765808773, 9780765808776
220 pages

Note from Reclaiming Manhood Site: This corroborates many of the things we have been saying. This perfectly explains the mammalian male sexual behaviour, where females and males shun each other unless and until they're in heat. Even then, you can see female running away from a sexually charged male, and male has to use aggression to mate with her. It is also common to see females in heat circling a disinterested male not in heat. Masculinity and feminiity are mutually exclusive and it is only under sexual heat that this 'repulsion' is temporarily attained, usually as soon as sex is over... but often even before the sex process is over. 

"But... According to Freud, all social attraction -- all that can be subsumed under the heading of love -- is born of the complementarities of sex. "

Note from Reclaiming Manhood Site: Freud, whose beliefs were influenced by almost two thousand years of Christian influence, is the one primarily responsible for the mess that science is in regarding human, but especially male gender and sexuality.

The NewYork Times Book Review of Guyland by Michael Kimmel

Guyland is based on more than 400 interviews over a four-year span with young men, ages 16–26. Kimmel’s study shows that the guys who live in “Guyland” are mostly white, middle-class, totally confused and cannot commit to their relationships, work or lives. Although they seem baffled by the riddles of manhood and responsibility, they submit to the “Guy Code,” where locker-room behaviors, sexual conquests, bullying, violence and assuming a cocky jock pose can rule over the sacrifice and conformity of marriage and family. Obsessed with never wanting to grow up, this demographic, which is 22 million strong, craves video games, sports and depersonalized sexual relationships.

Quote from an advertisement from San Diego

Rave: Straight man searching for straight men

Date: 2005-02-05, 12:41PM PST

Straight man sees another straight man for completely straight male-on-male sex. 

I'm as straight as they come. I lettered in track and basketball in college. I'm the father of two teenage boys, and the husband of an extremely attractive attorney. I attend church on Sundays, play poker at least once a month with my old navy buddies, and own a golf membership. I'm the poster child for straight men. 

But sometimes, I want something a little different. 

I want to meet another man who is as straight as I am -- that is, who is entirely, completely, unmistakably straight, a man who is appalled by the very thought of homoeroticism. And I want him to fuck the shit out of me. Because, really, there's nothing more masculine than taking it up the bunghole from a hung, masculine, STRAIGHT man. 

I want him to pound me until I bleed. I want him to force his thick, throbbing cock down my throat. I want him to slap me around, to degrade me, to shoot his hot wad onto my face. His hot STRAIGHT wad, that is -- I don't want any lameass queer man-gravy to come anywhere near me; the very notion turns my stomach. But I NEED to experience that hot, virile, and thoroughly hetero sensation of his spooge running down my chin. 

Oh, I've seen some of the pathetic straight-man-seeks-straight-man-for-blowjob ads here in CL. It is pretty obvious what is happening in those ads -- you queer knob-jockeys don't have the 'nads to admit to your gay leanings. I'm OK with that, really -- to each his own. More power to you. But I really think you would be a lot happier if you would just admit that you are queer, and get on with life. 

But I'm not that way at all. I'm no queer. I'm just a normal, straight, chick-loving guy who likes to whitewash another guy's back 40 now and again. There is nothing inherently gay about two men spending an afternoon brownhatting, before going home to their wives. Sure, yes, I love playing the skinflute. Yes, I enjoy the feeling of a thick love muscle pounding into my chocolate cha-cha, now and again. But I like it in a manly, straight way, unlike you closeted, goober-smooching bungie boys. 

Any takers? NO QUEERS. 

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